Posted 7/15/14 (Tue)
The internet has a memory like an elephant.
Once something is on there, it can easily be recalled. The concept seems harmless now as we post pictures of our weekend outings and fun stuff we do.
However today’s kids are growing up in a world where privacy is not a concept they understand.
They are friends with hundreds of strangers on Facebook. They have hundreds or more followers on Twitter. These people have access to mountains of information about our families.
This creates a false sense of friendship and intimacy.
I’m not even going to start on the dangers of Snapchat.
A teen once told me, “Please, my mom has no clue how to check my Facebook.”
Ummmmm, didn’t she have aunts, uncles, friends of the family?
I would expect a fellow parent to call me up and point out if my child is posting something inappropriate.
I miss stuff. I would sincerely hope other people on my kids’ social media have my back.
Which is why my kids aren’t allowed to deny or unfriend family members without permission.
Trust me, I’m sure it drives them nuts. Ask me if I care.
Some parents are more vigilant than others. They know the passwords.
They have a deal with the kiddo that they can access everything at anytime.
Teens are most vulnerable due to the impulsiveness of their nature.
Most of that age haven’t learned the ability to think through the consequences.
A photo snapped at any moment in time can be uploaded and shared a million times.
All without your knowledge.
The news has been full of cases where teens had shared inappropriate pictures of themselves with their romantic interest just to have that fall into the hands of others.
Ask Disney sweetheart of High School musical fame, Vanessa Hudgens or Jennette McCurdy, an actress on the popular tween show, iCarly.
Both actresses have had nude photo scandals.
If you have a daughter under the age of 20, you have heard of one of those girls.
Try explaining that to your daughter over dinner when it was on national news.
Privacy settings on most social media sites allow you to limit the public access to some things however this is not foolproof.
However this doesn’t prevent all the things that can go wrong.
They will hopefully learn from their mistakes and grow from the experiences.
Eventually these kids grow up into students looking for a college, then college grads looking for a job with a good company.
Then they run into someone like me.
Recruiting was something I enjoyed because it was like a great big puzzle.
You have an idea of what is needed for a position and you try to find the person that best fits the missing piece.
Recruiters today work for colleges, major companies, small companies, non profits and more.
And the internet is our best friend.
Recruiters and HR personnel can and do Google people to see what comes up.
That picture of you on your senior trip might not help your chances of being taken seriously for an engineering job with a top firm.
A picture that you found funny two years ago and posted may come up in a search where your boss finds it’s racially offensive.
Employers are interviewing you to get an idea of who you are beyond the resume.
A simple internet search now turns up a wealth of social media information. There is no law preventing this either.
Provocative or inappropriate pictures, evidence of alcohol or drug use, and even poor spelling are reasons employers are passing on some candidates.
And we don’t have to tell you why you weren’t chosen.
Case in point, I was once tasked with vetting a candidate that on paper and in interview, was golden.
The company was leery though and wanted to make sure that due to the sensitive nature of the position that the person would stand up to scrutiny.
Five minutes on Google and it was a done deal. He was not offered the position.
He had the grades, he had the experience, he had the attitude, and sadly he also had a picture of himself pop up on Google with a bong.